Topic: When to ask a girl for a date

[bast1981]

Hi,

I found a lot of info on the net about how to ask a girl for a date but no info about when to ask her out. It seems everybody wants that one girl and really quickly. I am about taking my time and take things slow.

My idea is that i have to be a friend first. Being an aquitance that she sees her and there is not enough. When i meet her i smile and i say hi. I stay casual. If she continue the conversation further i continue further. Sometimes when we will know each other well enough i will offer her to go take a coffe someplace to get to know her. that would be our first official date.

Right now if place myself at the girl place. If someone i barely see came to ask me to go take a cup of coffee even if i feel attracted i would find it really akward and it would push me away.

Does it seems i am doing the right thing ? I am not stopping at this one girl i am on dating websites flirting with girls but she is really someone i would like to know better. I know there is attraction on both sides.

[gemini]

if you feel you want to get to know her better, go ahead and ask her out.

The worst she can say is no.

[Cholly]

Don't over think it. Good for long term plans, except for relationships. Bad, bad, BAD for relationships.

[jbmathwiz]

As a youthful, teen-like, girl-worshiping-idiot. Here's my advice.

Befriend her, get comfortable around each other, and have a good time. Don't just try to ask her. Once you're comfortable with each other, hint a little (teeny tiny) bit. If you get some positive signs, you're golden. Now at this point, where you know she likes you, and you like her, and you're both super awkward and giggly, the worst possible thing you could ever do is put off asking her out. Just commit to it. go for it. Ask her. MAKE SURE you ask her out in a timely manner, because you'll find yourself in the friend zone pretty quick otherwise.

good luck man!

[Aiptasia]

I think it depends on what your intentions are. If you're a fine, upstanding young man that wants the companionship of a nice girl, there's no reason you can't ask her out on a date. A date just implies that you're spending some time with someone. It can be a group date with friends, or a solo date with just the two of you. It's the perfect opportunity to find out more about each other, what your likes and dislikes are, and to see if you'd enjoy spending more time together. It doesn't have to imply anything more than that.

I'd suggest asking her out and doing something that both of you would enjoy. Great first dates don't have to cost a lot of money. You can share a meal, go see a movie in a theater, or just go for a walk together. Consider an activity that she might like to do. As to what time to ask her out, there is no right or wrong answer.

Remember, walking up to her and introducing yourself is half the battle. Just be yourself and be self-confident.

[Cholly]

Remember, walking up to her and introducing yourself is half the battle.

Gospel!!!

[bulrush]

Lol. Dates are for making out.