Topic: What do you think of this behaviour

[bast1981]

I'm lost on this one. I would like the advice of girls on this forum. Do you think she is really into me but just really shy ? She block me on facebook then her parents and all her relatives tell me that if she knew it was really me on facebook she would not have blocked me. Her herself said I wanted to speak to him. We could have talked ect... He will think i don't want anything to do with him. She was afraid that i would think that she is in a relationship.

All her friends call me her boyfriend althought we don'T even talk. It's like she go aroud telling her friend and family that i am her boyfriend when it's not the case. I thought about her doing this flirting just to boost her image with her friends. You know look this guy is intersted in me. You know kind to show off with her friends and be more popular.

I gave my cell phone number away during the holiday and had her relatives tell her to call me. I know they did but she did not called me. She still have not to this day. She wanted to come see me play at a bowling game because she knows i go bowling.Her brother told her we just have to go in his place. She got an axe bodydspray that belongs to me. Not that i care.

I know she is very shy and all she talks about is about me going over in her place. But why does she not make any efforts herself ? It just seem like a one sided relationship right ow.

[firestar]

She's playing head games with you, dude.  There are so many nice girls out there, girls who are honest and straight-forward and trustworthy.  I think you are absolutely right that she's stringing you along to show off to her friends and maybe also to boost her own ego.  If you continue to play along, and keep begging for her attention, you will teach her that it's okay to treat men like fashion accessories.  There is no future with a girl like this.  As soon as another guy comes along who catches her eye, she will ignore you and if you're too emotionally invested, you will be hurt.  Wouldn't you rather wait a little bit longer until you find a girl who treats you like an important person?

[Snapple]

dido to what firestar said. Just march on up and lay it on the table. Do you like me or not? Do you want to date or not? If she doesnt give you a straight answer then forget her! I dont play these stupid mind games. She blocked you on facebook and wont call so that should be your answer right there. Good luck!

[Cholly]

I'm with the ladies on this one. Maybe she's just getting and following bad advice on how to proceed, but it really just sounds like she's playing you.

[hakkobetta]

Ditch her.

[Lynda B]

I'm a little confused. If she has your bodyspray, were you dating at one point?

I'm also confused as to why you would tell her family to tell her to call you. Why are so many people involved in this relationship? Why don't you just call her yourself? There are games being played on both sides here, in my opinion.

Put on your big boy pants and either a) call the girl or b) move on. You're spending way too much time and energy wondering if she even likes you, for some reason.

Good luck!

I am SO glad I'm married to the love of my life. I don't miss those weird dating days. 

[bast1981]

oh yes i won't miss dating. Some say that it's half the fun but to me it's not. Oh man you don't know what she did. No we were never dating. It's just that she would sit by the windown in the evening to see if i pass in the street or not. If i passed she would turn the light on and quickly rush to the entrance expecting me to go over. She said that i always had perfume on and always smell good.  When in a crownd for exemple she will isolate me. I mean she will spend her time looking at me instead of looking at the other people around. If i am near her she gets extremely nervous. She will defend me alot against the others. For exemple at he christmas mass she was all angry because all the other people of her family were after me and laughing.

She have this weird habid of sticking out her tongue and weeting her lips when she see me she is like ohhhh.

I don't know it's really weird.

I understand what you are saying if she was really interested she would call,text me or do anything to come visit me. BUt then again i am very interested and i don'T call,text,or anything i try to respect her the much i can. I could have opened another account on facebook just to go talk to her but i did not. Her brother is up there. I could have talked to her brother and other family member but i did not i respect her too much.

Take one evening for exemple she had friends over her house. i pass in the street and  then she get up quickly from the couch that is just beside the window and when she saw i was crying i could see her smile went away and she was like NOOO.
She knows i am a muscian and i posted video of me playing guitar on facebook. One night i went to go get my demo cd and when she saw i had a cd because she was sitting next the window.

[RinsMom]

I don't understand why you don't call her.  It used to be that the boy did the calling, made the first move toward a relationship.

There is nothing wrong in calling her just to talk about stuff.... don't get intense, etc....  don't ask her all the "why" questions..

Just talk and establish a communication.. talk about music, stuff like that.

She may be waiting for YOU to make the first move!

[bast1981]

Wil keep you updated. Honestly for me being single is just not a life. I could not bare the thought of being a single person all my life. It's maybe not that bad when  you are young but when you are old and have no children to look over you. I mean why get up every morning to go to work when you don'T even have goals.

If you are in a couple you can say i go to work to buy ourself a house. To move out in an appartement with her having children raising a family. If not you come back home from work only to talk to yourself really it get depressing quick. All the little things that happen to you that a normal person would not care to you seems like a mountain to you. What a boring life would i have. 


The bad part with this girl is if she is playing with my heart. I am in love and when in love. I don'T sleep or sleep very little. Staying up all night is not out of the question. I don't eat well i jump over meals. I get sick. It just throw me really hard on my behind. Love is a very powerful thing.

[Lynda B]

You never know until you try..... so just man up and contact her.... directly. Not Facebook, not an email, not a text. Either call her or stop by. Then you will have the answer to your question. End of story.

This mind game stuff is enough to put people in their grave. You either do something or you don't. If you would like to pursue something with her, then get off your duff and do it already.